Giving and Asking for Permission
What Is Meant by Giving and Asking for Permission?
Giving permission involves allowing someone to do something, typically from a position of authority. Asking for permission involves asking someone in a position of authority to allow you to do something. There are different levels of formality when engaging in such interactions and different linguistic means are used in each context.
Asking for Permission
Three modal verbs are commonly used when asking for permission:
Asking for Permission with 'Can'
You can use the modal verb 'can' to ask for permission; however, this is an informal way of asking for permission and is used in casual contexts. For example:
Can I borrow your coat?
Can I open your bedroom's window?
Asking for Permission with 'May'
Using 'may' is a more polite and formal way to ask for permission. Accordingly, this is the proper way of asking for permission when talking to someone in a position of authority. Here are some examples:
May I go out of the class?
May we go downstairs?
Asking for Permission with 'Could'
The modal verb 'could' is the past tense of 'can.' However, this does not mean that it always refers to a time in the past. It can be used as a more indirect or polite way of asking for permission. For example:
Could we take a short break now?
Could I use your phone for a moment?
Using 'Please'
To make the request sound more polite, you can use the word 'please' at the end of the question. Usually, there is a comma before the word 'please.' Check out the examples.
May I sit down, please?
Can I use your phone, please?
Asking for Permission with 'Do You Mind?'
This expression is used to ask for permission or, more specifically, to ask if doing something bothers anybody. In this case, no authority is involved; it is only a matter of courtesy and consideration of other people's convenience and preference. Here are some examples:
Do you mind if I close the door?
Do you mind if I use your phone?
Using First-person Singular Pronoun
As you can see in the examples, asking permission mostly involves using the first-person pronouns I and we. This is because when we ask for permission, we are usually concerned with our own actions. However, this is not always the case, and we can ask for permission on behalf of others:
Could my friend join us for dinner?
May she stay here for a while?
Giving Permission
Using Modals
Out of the three modals discussed above that are used to ask for permission, 'can' and 'may' can be used to give permission as well. For example:
You can leave now.
You may enter.
Using Other Phrases and Expressions
There are some phrases and expressions that are used to give permission to others in a polite way. Here we have some of them on the list.
Go ahead
Sure, please do.
No problem
Feel Free
Check out the dialogues to see how they are used:
Mom! Can I use the computer, please?
Sure honey, go ahead!
May I listen to music, too?
Yes, feel free.
Refusal
There are some phrases and expressions that are used to reject someone's request for permission politely. For example:
I am terribly sorry, but I have to say no.
I'm sorry, but I can't allow that.
I'm afraid that's not possible.
No, you may not.
Check out the dialogue to see how these are used:
Excuse me! May I leave the classroom?
I'm sorry, but I can't allow that.
May I drink water in the class?
No, you may not.
To Be Allowed to Do Something
We can use to be allowed to do something in different tenses to give, deny, and ask for permission. Look at the examples:
Am I allowed to go out tonight?
You are allowed to stay out late just tonight.
I was not allowed to drive the car before I got my lisence.
Review
Modal verbs such as 'could', 'may', and 'can' are used to ask for permission. Among these, only 'may' and 'can' are used to give permission. There are also other expressions that can be used to give or deny permission, such as:
to be allowed to
Feel free.
Go ahead.
I'm sorry, but I can't allow that.
I'm afraid that's not possible.
Quiz:
Which of the following is the most formal way to ask for permission to leave a meeting?
Can I leave the meeting?
May I leave the meeting?
Do you mind if I leave the meeting?
Could I leave the meeting?
Sort the words to form a sentence asking for permission.
Fill the table by choosing whether the modal/expression is used for asking or giving permission, or both.
Could | |
No problem | |
Can | |
Go ahead | |
May |
Match each expression to its correct function.
Which of the following sentences correctly uses "to be allowed to" to refuse giving permission?
Am I allowed to use the car this weekend?
You are allowed to use the car this weekend.
You are not allowed to use the car this weekend.
You may use the car this weekend.
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