How to Choose Between 'She' and 'They'
In writing academically or speaking formally, it is important that you don’t distinguish between genders. Here we will learn how!
She vs. They
Why Should We Care Which One to Choose?
In modern day, it has become quite important to use language in such a way that includes both men and women without distinguishing between genders.
Since, English has gender-specific pronouns (for example, he, she, his, hers, etc.) being neutral and implicit about gender might be hard.
Until recent years, there were no personal pronouns that could refer to someone without identifying whether that person was male or female.
But now, this problem is solved by the introduction of 'singular they'.
When Can We Use Singular They?
Instead of using 'he' or 'she', we can use the singular 'they' for referring to:
- a generic person with unknown or unidentified gender
- a specific, known person who explicitly prefers 'they' as their pronoun
People who do not identify themselves as either male or female (non-binary people) usually prefer to be referred to as they.
Alex loves to travel . They take perfect pictures from their sightseeing .
'Alex' is a non-binary person, that's why we use the pronoun 'they' to refer to Alex.
Unknown or Unidentified Gender
Sometimes we do not know the gender of a person or their gender is irrelevant. In this case, it's best to use 'they' as their pronoun.
This is true, especially when the pronoun 'they' is used to refer back to an indefinite pronoun, like 'anyone', 'everyone', etc.
What Was Once a Generic Pronoun?
'She' is used to refer to a female person or animal. In other words, 'she' is the feminine subject pronoun.
In the past, 'he' was considered a generic pronoun and was used to refer to both men and women (to people in general).
Why Singular They?
Nowadays, it may sound sexist to use the pronoun 'he' for an unidentified or unknown person. That's why many writers choose 'the singular they' to refer to them.
Some people prefer to use he or she instead of 'they' in speech and writing:
Another alternative for avoiding gender specificity is writing He/she or (s)he. But all these variations are a bit frowned upon. And your best choice is to use 'they'.
With 'they' you can also refer to people in general, despite their gender.
Singular They: Plural or Singular Verb?
When 'they' is the subject of a sentence, whether it is the singular 'they' or plural 'they', you must use plural verbs. Never say or write 'they
is'. Always use 'are' with this pronoun.